It was one of those weekends, preceded by one of those weeks, which was also preceded by one of those weekends. It was a relentless string of difficult moments, and we have all come through it unscathed.
Last weekend DH worked, leaving me to solo childcare. He recently finished his residency, meaning he recently entered the realm of people with more normal, less hellish work hours. Meaning I have recently discovered how much easier it is to have a child when you have the help of a spouse. I'm certain being a single mother is more difficult than this past year has been for us, but much of the time I've come close. The combination of having a spouse who works all the time and having no family nearby makes for exhausting weeks.
Since June, DH has had a more normal schedule. And I have been soaking in the luxury of a 2-parent household. Last weekend was a brief return to having him gone all the time, and a reminder of how much easier our life has become.
On Monday, after DH had been up for 15 hours, MJ had a fever, forcing us to keep her home. Since last week was my last week of teaching, and I had gotten nothing done all weekend, he had to stay with her. This was followed by the week of sick. MJ was in and out of daycare, after we thought she was better and it turns out she was not. Tuesday evening took me to the ER, for fear of appendicitis that turned out to be an unfortunate combination of unrelated symptoms. I didn't get admitted, but I did get Dilaudid. Can't say I understand the appeal.
Thursday brought a 104 degree fever to MJ and a concerned visit to the pediatrician. She had an ear infection. We started her on antibiotics. We joined our neighbors at their cabin, somewhat regretting the decision when MJ spent two-thirds of the weekend screaming and I continued to recover from the stomach pains that landed me in the ER in the first place.
But on Saturday night, the calm returned. Or the beginning of the calm. Not really calm, exactly, since that hasn't existed in 10+ months. But joy. I finally felt better. Yesterday, MJ returned. We remembered what it's like to have a happy kid. We really did have a glorious weekend, if you discount the screaming. We feel so lucky to have met such fun people, who live so close, whose children are so close in age to MJ. Who will not be leaving in the near future to follow a string of post-docs, as so many of our friends are going to soon start doing. But the return of our joyous, happy, rambunctious child was really the best part. And the fact that DH and I got through this hellish week with few arguments and even some fond memories.